Survivors of Adoption
“TRUTH!!!😢😢😢I have been rejected by the majority of my birth family because I am a Jewish, lesbian, Democrat and the majority of my birth family are evangelical, homophobic, tRumpers!!!😢😢😢Not only did my birthmother let go of me, but her entire clan, family, let go of me twice. The first time when I was sold to my adopted parents and the second time when I found them as an adult The reunification with my sisters and cousins was a total failure. I was totally rejected and abandoned again! I was even told that I could not meet my birthmother's only living sister, my aunt!! My older sister gave me those orders!!! She wanted me to pretend that I was a friend of my older sister. I absolutely refused to do that! No more secrets and lies for me!!!”
These are not my words, my experiences. But they are close, like the stories of thousands of other babies who were sold as opposed to murdered. Baby trafficking, human trafficking have been big business for far too long. Most people are oblivious to the suffering, the trauma, the stories of these babies because such stories have existed in the shadows, placed there by manufactured shame.
The stigma must be lifted so all the babies who have grown up can freely tell their stories to a world who will change things rather than continue the stigma and trauma for profit.
To paraphrase Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., we must learn to live together as brothers and sisters or perish as a species.
We have become a people who accept all manners of dirty deeds if they are profitable. Greed has destroyed good people with good intentions the same way greed is destroying religion, politics, democracy and our planet. The only difference is that the planet can shake off the effects of humans, heal itself over time like it has done for eons, and make way for new species of life. Human remains will fill the museums of the future.
Can the course of history be changed? It could have been if not for the heedlessness of warnings during the past 250 years or more. Is now too late? Only time will tell. But judging by our collective lack of action during my lifetime, the outlook is not optimistic. Could it be that a people who lack empathy for the children of others condemn themselves to extinction? Is the banning of abortion merely a method for increasing inventory for the selfish?
Face it, civilized society was built on the backs of slavery in one form or another. Adoption is merely a term created by the zealots to soften the act of selling babies into a modern form of bondage. I doubt Betsy DeVos would agree with me.
International adoption (also referred to as intercountry adoption or transnational adoption) is a type of adoption in which an individual or couple residing in one country becomes the legal and permanent parent(s) of a child who is a national of another country. Depending on the country, it can also be referred to as transracial and/or transcultural adoption. The purchasing family are not educated about the intricacies of transracial and/or transcultural babies, enhancing the trauma of the child.
I was born at a black market baby factory in Canada. Flawed babies, non-white, with birth defects of any kind were murdered and buried on the grounds, dumped at sea or incinerated in the Home’s furnace. For cultural and other reasons, many of the babies were illegally sold to Jewish couples in the New Jersey/New York area for up to $10,000 (over $100,000 in todays dollars).
During the 1990s, a book was written and a movie made based on it. As a result of the book and movie, those who survived the Ideal Maternity Home, who were sold and are now adults, became aware of their origins. One of those babies, Bob Hartlen (dec’d), who was adopted and grew up locally in Nova Scotia, formed the group Survivors of the Ideal Maternity Home. I was in contact with Bob and contributed to help the work of his non-profit organization.
“Survivors of the Ideal Maternity Home, now scattered throughout the U.S., Canada and Europe continue to meet, provide support, and assist one another with birth family searches.
The Home has been subject of several books, plays, and two movies. The title of Bette Cahill's book, Butterbox Babies is a reference to the "butter boxes," wooden grocery crates from a local dairy used as coffins for the babies killed at the Ideal Maternity Home.
The 1995 film Butterbox Babies was adapted from the book. Another film based on the story, The Child Remains, was released in 2017.”
~Wikipedia
Sadly, Mr. Hartlen passed away and the continuation of his Survivors Group fell on some of the children of the Survivors. When I informed them that I had discovered my biological birth mother and that she was indigenous, a Mi’kmaw woman, I was shortly kicked out of the Survivor’s Group, banned from their Facebook Page and my name and existence removed from their website and literature. Of course, they never said to me that I was being ostracized because of my non-white heritage, but the timing cannot be denied. In fact, they never had the decency to contact me and explain why I was being banned.
As fate would have it, I was light skinned and passed for white from birth through today. Otherwise, I would have been forgotten in some unmarked grave like hundreds of other transracial and transcultural babies who were not white enough to be sold. Adding insult to injury, “adopted babies” spend a lifetime of having doors slammed in their face. To have those who should be empathetic toward “adoptees,” babies sold on the black market, collectively slam another door in my face both hurts and is a disappointment. My only thoughts are that they must be so filled with hate.
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