Reckoning with The Primal Wound

Those of you who follow me know I rave about Nancy Vernier’s book, “The Primal Wound.” Recently, a documentary was made based on that book. For those who have yet to read this marvelous book, here is some further information for you to view, listen to and learn. This proves I am not alone in attempting to raise the awareness of the masses to the true nature of adoption and baby trafficking. Everyone in any sort of relationship with adoption and adopted people need to educate themselves about the uniqueness of adoption trauma. 

Reckoning with The Primal Wound

official trailer

https://youtu.be/O-AELxDdr-E

Interview With Filmmaker, Rebecca Autumn Sansom:

Reckoning With The Primal Wound

https://youtu.be/gGONx1dEUAY

A Reading of “The Primal Wound”

Chapter 1 - Adoption as an Experience

https://youtu.be/GQ2JgcKzyJM

Chapter 2 - Connection With The Birthmother

https://youtu.be/zOQfcOBdgk4

The Unacknowledged Grief of Adoptionhttps://youtu.be/OT8cdGvaNgg

6 Signs of Adoption Abandonment Issues I

Adoptee | Relationships and Adoption

Rejection Trauma

https://youtu.be/Qv3D5YHSyT8

What is gaslighting and how does it impact adopted persons?

https://youtu.be/gGONx1dEUAY

The words of another friend:

“As a person adopted, no matter how much I love my adopted family, you always feel different, you never quite feel whole. You always doubt acceptance.You know you love them, and they love you, but you know that you feel like something is missing. 

Also, being adopted, and meeting my  biological family, you feel somewhat different. But yet, you sense your genetics. You see how your interested in the same things. I truly feel that I have more in common with my biological family , even though I was not raised by them, or even spent a lot of time with them.

But, as an adoptee, no matter love, or care… there is always a longing, a need, a piece of you that feels lonely… that you are a stranger. A part of you that wants to feel like they are your people, but no matter what, you never seem to relate, or feel loved or cared like you believe you would if you were never adopted. 

 It is something I have struggled with my entire life, but seems to become worse as a teenager. Many people may think how wonderful and lucky I am that I was adopted, and not only have one family that loves me, but two families that love me. And in reality, I can understand that. But, being adopted, and knowing I’m different from my adopted family, knowing that I did not grow up being raised by my biological parent, or growing next to and with my biological brothers and sister. Knowing I’m a stranger, but yet a sister or daughter, or cousin. It has been difficult dealing with these feelings, loneliness, and suffering with who I am. You can’t stop feeling less than by both adopted family or biological family. You can’t help wondering if you will ever be wanted or looked truly as family. I’m 51 this September, and I still fight through these feelings. I’m the youngest child in my adopted family, youngest sister is 11 years older than I. I am not invited to as much as the other siblings, and it hurts. I’m the oldest sibling of my biological family. My brother closest to me is about 10 years younger than me. And as much as I want to be a part of their lives, I will always be separate, even when invited. They don’t know who I am fully, because we were raised separately. I am not telling people this because I want to be felt sorry for. I made sure both biological and adopted family do not see this, because I don’t want them to feel guilt or hurt in any way, they shouldn’t. I am posting this so that I can let my thoughts be told. Most adopted people have similar feelings, and they don’t let other people know how they feel.”

WOW!!! Since finally joining Facebook in 2015 to be able to chat and get to know biological family in another country, an unanticipated bonus was hearing the stories of other adoptees and learning I was not unique. I am sure your story, like those of others I have read, will go a long ways to helping other adoptees better understand themselves and make sense of the feelings they had their entire lives. 

I would like to use your thoughts with your permission, anonymously, of course.

“…absolutely!”